| |
| |
|
Parenting Information |
|
|
|
Parenting Skills - Five Ways To Turbo-Boost Your Confidence
The 'phone conversation had nothing at all to do withparenting - but it made me think . . . "Hello, Eastbank Football Club. Can I help you?""Good morning, may I speak with the Assistant Coach,please?""Oh, I'm sorry. He's still on vacation.""I see. Is anyone on the coaching staff there?""No, they're all away right now. The club's closed foranother week yet. I'm only the Groundsman.""Well, thanks anyway. And hey, why say you're onlythe Groundsman? If it wasn't for you, there wouldn't be afootball club. They'd have nowhere to play!"(Pause)"Yeah, I'd never really thought of it like that.(Laughter) Thanks a lot, pal, you've made my day!" So often we do ourselves down, don't we? We devalue our owncontribution or service. "I'm only a shop assistant!" "I'monly a . . . " (fill in the blank!) Sometimes we even hearwomen say: "I'm just a housewife"! Confidence and self-esteem are often in short supply thesedays. And nowhere more so than in PARENTING! Even those who are superbly confident in their work orsocial situations, often teeter on the edge when it comes totheir parenting skills. Why? Is it something to do with the breakdown in old-fashionedvalues and concepts of authority; the widening gulf between kids and their parents; the dangers we as parents are so acutely aware of, but which are casually dismissed by ourkids? Whatever the causes, there's a lot you can do to improvethings. Step 1Dr Norman Vincent Peale, author of The Power Of PositiveThinking, used to advise people to sit down and writeout a list of all their assets and abilities. But Dr Peale's next suggestion is crucial. Once the list ofassets and abilities has been written, he tells us to raisethe stakes. Simply BELIEVE that you are at the veryleast 10% better than you think. It's now widely acknowledged in modern psychology that you'll still be way off the mark! So have faith. You're better than you think. Step 2Do some study. You probably weren't taught parenting skillsat school or college, yet parenting is the most vital contribution to society. There are lots of books,courses, tapes, CDs and videos on parenting. No excuses!Grab some and get busy. Knowledge and insight bringconfidence. Whatever stage you're at, you can improveyourself. Step 3Learn to temper your reaction in stressful parenting situations. Easier said than done! But you can make a conscious effort to stay calm and remind yourself ofDr Peale's advice (You're more capable than you think youare!), and you can put into practice what you've beenstudying about family dynamics. Step 4 Develop yourself in some way. Yes, remember those piano lessons you once took, or that art class you attended? Interests like these are great stress relievers and they build self-confidence - which is vital for parenting. If you feel you're already confident in other matters, but it's only in parenting you feel a lack, why not take up some activity with your kids? Learning together brings youtogether, and can be great fun! Step 5 Finally, resist any temptation to go it alone. Nature intended us to be social creatures. Seek advice fromgrandparents, relatives, friends. Overcome your pride.Discuss your parenting challenges with others and draw onthe communal strength. And d'you know what? You'll findyou're not alone. Let's work on parenting together, as acommunity. Confident parents raise confident kids. Take action now. If you do nothing, you can look forward tomore of the same: worry, tension, ill-feeling etc etc. Zap these negative trends once and for all. To give yourselfa real boost, check out my website. There you'll find lotsmore to help you and your kids live life to the full. Why do some parents and children succeed, while othersfail?
MORE RESOURCES:
Interaction of Parenting Experiences and Brain Structure in the ... - Archives of General Psychiatry
Parenting - Google News |
|
|
|
RELATED ARTICLES
Summer Marks the Time to Remember Active Supervision Around Family Swimming Pools LOS ANGELES (May 19, 2005) - With Memorial Day weekend, and summer fast approaching, EMS, first responders, and water safety advocates, are bracing for the unthinkable - the unfortunate drowning accidents in backyard swimming pools that annually claim the lives of nearly 500 children under the age of five, and an estimated 2,800 "near-drowning" incidents.1The Centers for Disease Control (CDC) reports, for every child who drowns, six more children are involved in "near-drowning" incidents - accidents that can lead to permanent neurological damage, life-long disabilities, and leaving the parents with catastrophic medical costs and years of recovery and therapy. Bedtime and Sleep Habits Bedtime and children's sleep habits can cause nightmares - for parents, that is! Often at the end of a long day all you want is a little peace and time for yourself. After all, you have probably devoted the entire to the service of children in some form. 10 Reasons Why You Need to Ditch the Super Mom Syndrome For any of you Moms out there that are doing it all, attempting to gain Super Mom status, let me give you my own personal opinion?It's not worth it!!! The pursuit of the Super Mom is an endless search that will be of great cost to you in the end. Here are 10 reasons why you need to put an immediate halt to this pursuit. Top 10 Things To Never Believe From Your Teenager 1) It's not my (pot, beer, cigarettes, etc.), I'm just keeping it for someone else. Parenting Your Teenager: Kids and Money Most teens go into the work world ill-prepared to manage the money they will be making. Even if their parents have attempted to teach them about money, they still haven't had the wonderfully frightening experience we have all had. Gifted Children - Getting the Balance Right One of the challenges for parents with a gifted child is to encourage them to develop a range of interest outside the academic sphere that not only rounds them out but stops them from being isolated from their peersGifted children are a diverse group of kids who are talented in specific areas such as mathematics, language, sport or music. Some gifted kids are mutli-talented excelling in a variety of areas. Home And School Education - Your Kids Can Benefit From Both! Once, as a Learning Support Teacher, I made my way down to the annexe that housed the school's History Department.The annexe was about 100 metres from the main schoolbuilding, down an attractive, leafy hill. 10 Steps to School Year Success One of the most important aspects of parenting, is ensuring that your child gets a good education. School is a place where your child not only learns skills such as reading and writing; it is also where your child will learn about friendship, responsibility, and fairness. Monitoring Your Teens for Drug Use Without Appearing to be Spying Even if your teenagers do not use drugs, you still need to keep an eye on them. It is much better to realize that things could change, and anticipate that your teen COULD become a user. Loving Your Step-Children Loving your step-child can be both simple and hard. It is not enough for parents, step parents and extended family to feel a deep glow of love for the children in your circle of influence. Where to Look for Affordable Baby Clothes Once the newness has worn off a little, you will realize that your baby grows very fast. So fast, in fact, that he may need new clothes on the average of every two months during the first year. What Should I Know About Strattera for ADHD? Strattera came out around January of 2003, and is becoming more and more popular as a treatment for ADHD. Strattera is a norepinephrine reuptake inhibitor that came on the market in 2003. Signs of Child Sexual Abuse Many families do not want to believe their child is being sexually abused even if the signs of child sexual abuse are staring them straight in the face. Unfortunately many families are in a similar situation where both parents are working full time and someone other than the biological parents are caring for their children. Muscle Pain And Children Do Not Mix I am in pain. I've been in pain all day. Your Kids Career - Whose Choice? A strange thing happened to me today. Or more precisely, astrange thought occurred. Raising a Violent-Free Teen in 10 Easy Steps The disquieting behavior of teenagers in the 21st century, is being hailed by experts as a disturbing trend among troubled youth. Such an interpretation may be factual, but mental heath advocates maintain there are guidelines parents can utilize before problems reach the critical stage. What Julia Roberts has to Say about Motherhood Julia Roberts recently gave birth to twins: Hazel and Phinnaeus. At 37, America's Pretty Woman couldn't be happier in her new role of motherhood. Homeschooling Takes Your Child Out of Public School --- A Unique Benefit Home-schooling removes children from public school. That alone makes home-schooling worthwhile. Types of Schools for Troubled Teens It can be difficult on all family members to have a teen move to a boarding facility. As a result, many parents choose to take their troubled teen to an alternative school. Visiting the Library Libraries offer more than books. They are places of learningand discovery for everyone.
|
| home | site map |
| © 2006 |
