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Raise Awesome Kids! This 4-Point Plan Gets Results
Are your children truthful, kind, and helpful? If so, read no further. If not, please listen to Colby and his mom. "All my friends cheat," announced 11-year-old Colby. "What?" exclaimed his mother? "You don't cheat do you?" "Sometimes," answered Colby. "But I never get caught." "It's not all right to cheat, young man," scolded his mother. "How many times have I told you cheating is wrong? What is the matter with you?" Whether it's lying, stealing, cheating or some other problem behavior, do you find yourself giving lectures on being honest while your child rolls his eyes? I remember counseling one father who loved his daughter so much that he would give her two-hour lectures. She not only rolled her eyes, but tapped her fingers too. He would yell, "Are you listening to me?" "Uh-huh," she'd answer. Parents, there is an easier way. It doesn't have to take two hours either. Consider using the 4-POINT PLAN: Probe Instead of worrying, whining, or wearing yourself out with lengthy lectures, make your goal one of understanding what and how your child thinks. By knowing what your child thinks, you can better influence how he or she thinks. This simple PLAN will help you communicate more effectively. Let's go back to Colby. Instead of lecturing - PROBE How do you feel when a cheater gets better grades than you get? How do you think honest kids feel about cheaters? How much would your class learn if everyone cheated? What advice would you give to cheaters? Depending on your child's answers keep probing with thoughtful questions of your own. LISTEN APPRECIATE NO CRITICIZING If you follow this 4-Point PLAN you will be giving your child the three priceless gifts that all human beings want: To be heard These gifts will bond your child with you and influence his or her character too. This 4-POINT PLAN is a powerful tool for discussing problems in movies and on TV. You can also use it to discuss real life difficulties at school, in the neighborhood, within your family, and, especially, in stories with dilemmas. The next time you have something important to discuss don't lecture. Next time Probe, Listen, Appreciate, and No criticizing. Try it. You'll like it. Why? Because this 4-POINT PLAN will get you the results you want, an awesome kid with an awesome character. Jean Tracy, MSS, invites you to build character in young hearts and growing minds. To raise your awesome kids with solid characters, sign up for her FREE Parenting Newsletter and download her FREE bonding activities, parenting tips, and articles at http://www.KidsDiscuss.com ©All rights reserved. Please observe copyright. Post this author resource box when using this article. Please inform me when and where you reprint this article.
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